FAQ

I only have one program that I offer, which is 3 months and includes 6 sessions plus online resources and email support.

This program has a combination of both individual, and partner/s sessions. Ideally we see each other fortnightly, with some flexibility for life getting in the way!

There are a few reasons I do it this way;

1. Working with clients in a session-to-session way creates loaded vibes. It reframes your experience as an expectation that a session will "fix something", and then if it doesn't, that "it didn't work".

   Working with relationship coaches is similar to working with a personal trainer; you learn technique, get feedback, and are guided during sessions, AND it is the consistent application of those techniques BETWEEN sessions that brings results.

2. Three months requires you to frame your expectations that change takes time. It frees you from making relationship decisions day-to-day, and provides you with a framework to implement tools and calibrate the effect, with ongoing coaching & support.
3. I don't vibe with sales fuckery.  I choose to not implement tools like "the silver, gold, platinum package choice" or other manipulative sales techniques. Just one program based on what I believe is the minimum block of time for you to begin to get traction.

The short answer is: I don’t know. Every set of partner/s is unique, and there are many factors that influence the length of our work together.

That said, here’s how many of my clients approach this:

Addressing a Specific Issue
Some partner/s come to me with one or two well-defined challenges. They need guidance to shake things out and develop the skills to manage their issues as a team. In these cases, a shorter series of sessions is often enough to help them move forward.

Navigating More Complex Issues
For partner/s with a longer history or more layered challenges, six sessions are rarely enough to address their priorities. In this case, I suggest completing an initial three-month program (typically six fortnightly sessions), followed by a short break to implement what you’ve learned. After that, you might continue with individual sessions, another block of partner/s work, or a mix of both. We’ll collaborate on what feels right for your situation.

Many partner/s find that this is where their work with me wraps up, which is great! Others choose to work together for longer—12 months (four 3-month programs) is common for those who want to dive deep and address root issues. Some clients prefer ongoing "maintenance" sessions monthly, quarterly, annually, or as needed to keep things on track or tackle new challenges as they arise.

Navigating Separation
Some partner/s decide that staying together isn’t the best choice, and that’s okay. Separation doesn’t have to be awful—especially if you’ll still need to collaborate as co-parents, business partners, or community members.

Either way I strongly recommend working with a relationship coach to provide support as you work through the breakup and define the scope of your future interactions, ensuring respect and kindness remain at the centre.

Acute or Immediate Distress
When partner/s are in crisis, the first priority is to restore stability at home, regulate the nervous system, and rebuild mutual respect. In these cases, I recommend starting with weekly sessions for six weeks, followed by a second three-month program of fortnightly sessions.

At the end of 12 sessions (over 4.5 months), we’ll reassess together. Depending on your circumstances, you might choose to take a break to implement what you’ve learned or continue with coaching to address additional goals.

A 3 month program is AUD$387 per month, for 3 months. So, AUD$1161. You can pay that however your pay cycle rolls (weekly, fortnightly, monthly).

For my American clients - that's about $247 USD per month.

That works out to be around one session per fortnight, but there is lots of flexibility to take that over a longer time to allow for the inevitabilities of life!

Absolutely.

I am committed to accessibility for everyone who wants to do relational work.

Longer-term, shame-free, no extra cost payment plans are available, no questions asked. If $387 per month is beyond your budget, we'll work something out!

This approach & the language about payment plans is written by anti-capitalist coach Bear Hebert.

• Because noone should ever be shamed, tricked, bullied, manipulated, or coerced into believing you need fixing, and that relationship coaching will 'fix' you.
• Because NO program will ever be the answer to you finding happiness, nor the answer to your yearning.
• Because I no longer want to contribute to the noise.
• Because I don't want to punish you for not having money.
• Because money should not be a barrier to accessing support for your relationship.
• Because Capitalism requires that some people hold wealth while others are oppressed, and that is not my jam.

So: Fuck Capitalism, and Fuck Sales. 

I'm actively working to communicate in a way that strikes a balance between generosity in education, gentle reminders, and supportive enquiry. I'm actively working to rewrite all my shit and take out the push, the nudge, the sell. It's hard (because capitalism) and also because that balance is different for each of you.

I'm inviting you now to help me to get that right, by replying to give me thoughtful feedback.

Sure do!

Online relationship coaching is a game-changer for partner/s & polycules.

No need to travel, rearrange your schedule, or worry about logistics—just log in and focus on you.

I use cal.com for all online sessions.

I see clients face-to-face at my office in Toronto, Lake Macquarie, on Awabakal land.

Our private, bushland-facing space offers a peaceful setting, with easy parking.

I acknowledge this is stolen land, never ceded, and pay respects to Awabakal Elders past, present, and emerging, honouring their enduring connection to land, water, and community.