Meet Tara Thomas - Relationship Coach

I'm Tara (She/Her) and I'm a Relationship Coach in Toronto,  Lake Macquarie on Awabakal Country. I'm a white, married, middle-class, educated, cis, bi, able bodied, neuro-diverse (AuDHD) woman, living with chronic fatigue.

I'm a fellow weirdo, and have never traveled a conventional path. It can suck because the world isn't designed for misfits, sometimes it's myself I'm rebelling against, and being a weirdo can feel lonely.

I believe that partner/s & couples therapy is about skills building, not person fixing~I take an experimental approach, incorporating movement alongside curious conversations. I collaborate with partner/s, polycules, & individuals to discover their unique dynamics... It's a choose-your-own-adventure kind of ride!

I swear a lot, think life's too short for drama, and dream of a world where we ALL belong.

A picture of Tara smiling and wearing black rimmed glasses. She is standing in front of a bookcase & a blackboard with a purple wall. There's a large green West German Pottery vase on a shelf.

I'm Tara (She/Her) and I'm a Relationship Coach in Toronto,  Lake Macquarie on Awabakal Country. I'm a white, married, middle-class, educated, cis, bi, able bodied, neuro-diverse (AuDHD) woman, living with chronic fatigue.

A picture of Tara smiling and wearing black rimmed glasses. She is standing in front of a bookcase & a blackboard with a purple wall. There's a large green West German Pottery vase on a shelf.

I'm a fellow weirdo, and have never traveled a conventional path. It can suck because the world isn't designed for misfits, sometimes it's myself I'm rebelling against, and being a weirdo can feel lonely.

I believe that partner/s & couples therapy is about skills building, not person fixing~I take an experimental approach, incorporating movement alongside curious conversations. I collaborate with partner/s, polycules, & individuals to discover their unique dynamics... It's a choose-your-own-adventure kind of ride!

Why I Do What I Do

This isn't a story about how I did the thing and now I have the perfect relationship that you should all want...

That's just not true. That is a bullshit marketing lie that people tell you to make you think if you just spend enough money on a relationship coach you can have the life you think you want... it's not real.

Like, I'm happy (mostly) and love my partner (all the amount) but we have highs & lows like any other humans in relationship.

My mission is repairing intimate connections to create relational ripples that generate networks of care.

What I've come to believe through a slow evolution of thinking, lots of applied learning, and working with hundreds of people as their Relationship Coach, is that there is no single answer to how to do this thing we call relating.

However, there ARE a bunch of helpful strategies that will help YOU navigate what works best in YOUR relationship/s. That'll be different to what everyone else does, and that's what makes it cool.

I believe that healing happens relationally, and that by nurturing healthy & happy interactions on a micro level in each of our relationships we will fundamentally transform our communities.

What Matters To Me

I'm a quiet soul. Outside of my work as a relationship coach, I love nothing better than to hang out with Jimmy T and my two dogs Billy & Roo Beans (um, they even have their own Insta @billyandroobeans). My three favourite activities are gardening, reading, and coffee & chats.

I'm passionately anti-capitalist, politically very left, and these values are strongly expressed in my work.

Fun fact: 90% of new clients, when asked why they called me and not another couples therapist, say "because you swear on your website". I AM quite swear-y, and frankly if that's offensive I reckon you're getting mad about the wrong shit.

Qualifications

I have been a coach since 2013, and specialised in Relationship Coaching since 2014.

  • Internationally Certified Extended DISC Consultant & Trainer
  • Completed Level 1 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy
  • Gottman Couples & Addiction Recovery
  • Gottman Treating Affairs & Trauma
  • Certified Practitioner Neuro-Linguistic Programming
  • Certified Instant Insight Communication Systems™ Relationship Coach
  • Certified Instant Insight Communication Systems™ Sex Coach
  • Trained in Alice Haemmerle's Client Code™
  • Certified Non Linear Movement Method® Teacher
  • Certified Facilitator of The Wild Woman's Circle™
  • Studying The Developmental Model with Ellen Bader 2024-2025

KIND WORDS FROM CLIENTS

Working with Tara was an amazing experience. Her style of communication and no-nonsense approach to problem-solving really resonated with me.

During the sessions, I learnt a tremendous amount about myself, and how relationships actually work. The experience has helped me to develop a much better understanding of how to resolve conflicts and respond to the emotional needs of others. I highly recommend giving it a go!

~Matt B
Hunter Valley
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