Best Relationship Books & Resources

I've had a lifelong love affair with reading—I'm always hunting down the best relationship books and resources across a wide range of genres. This reference library contains my handpicked favourites from my bookshelf (that I've personally relied on). Consider this a carefully curated bibliography of my own work, as well as the foundation for my approach to therapy.

I encourage you to explore widely—some of the best relationship books and resources come from unexpected places. Even if you're monogamous, resources on consensual non-monogamy often provide gold-standard tools and processes for relating. If you're not kinky, kinksters still lead the way in consent, negotiation, and clear communication. And even if you're not disabled or chronically ill, those communities beautifully model how to manage time, energy, attention, community care, and contribution according to capacity. You might even uncover parts of yourself you haven't yet met.