Personal Therapy with Tara Thomas

Life gets messy, and sometimes it’s hard to know where to start untangling it all. In our work together, we can delve into the complexities of relationships, identity, and the bigger questions that keep you up at night. Here’s a glimpse at some of the issues we might explore:

• Did that just fucking happen?
  Making sense of a specific event (or a series of actions or behaviours) that has left you questioning what happened and why.
• Infidelity and attraction.
  Navigating the complex feelings of being the one who had an affair, processing betrayal, or figuring out what to do when you’re sexually or romantically attracted to someone else.
• Relationship crossroads.
  Deciding whether to stay or go and exploring the possibilities in either direction.
• Opening Relationships and Exploring Polyamory
  For those considering consensual non-monogamy: support in deciding if it's the right path for you, navigating the transition, and addressing emotions and challenges as they arise during the process.
• Navigating Open Relationships
  For those already in open relationships: guidance to manage relationship dynamics, address common challenges, and strengthen connections within your chosen relationship(s).
• Navigating Monogamous Relationships
  For those already in monogamous relationships: guidance to manage relationship dynamics, address common challenges, and strengthen connections within your chosen relationship.
• Grief, breakups, and estrangements.
  Processing the end of a relationship, whether through the end of a romantic partnership, the drift or rupture of a friendship, family estrangement, or death. Together, we’ll explore ways to honour what was, find clarity in what is, and move forward with intention.
• Redefining Neurodivergence: Your Brain, Your Rules.
  Living with neurodivergence—whether it’s ADHD, AuDHD, Autism, sensory processing struggles, or learning differences like dyslexia or dyspraxia—often means facing advice made for neurotypical brains. "Just make a list!" or "try harder!" assumes the problem is you, not the broken systems around you.

  I’m great at helping you figure out what’s really in your way (big, small, or weird) and finding what works for you. Maybe you’re already killing it in one area, and we can use that to tackle other challenges—or maybe you’ll decide you don’t give a fuck about that thing anyway. It’s about making life work for you, not the other way around.

• Adult Friendships and Support Networks
  For many, building meaningful connections isn’t about lacking the skills—it’s about struggling to find people who share the same intellectual curiosity, emotional depth, or desire for deeper conversations. When it feels like the people around you are only interested in surface-level stuff, it’s easy to withdraw, become more self-reliant, and lean into hermit life.

  Together, we’ll explore how to navigate this challenge—processing the frustration or confusion of feeling out of sync with others, finding or creating connections that feel nourishing, and building support networks rooted in mutual aid, where depth, understanding, and shared values thrive.

• Living Fully with Chronic Pain, Illness, or Disability
  Chronic pain, illness, or disability isn’t just about navigating garbage healthcare systems, you’re also dealing with the ignorance of a world that doesn’t see or value this community, and the pressure to meet societal standards of productivity and contribution.

  With my lived experience and special interest in this space, I bring a deep personal and professional commitment to exploring identity, legacy, and sexuality beyond symptoms or diagnoses. This includes celebrating vibrant sensuality, kink, and BDSM—all on crip time, where your pace and priorities come first.

• Living in rhythms and seasons.
  Finding flow in a world that demands constant productivity, and learning to honour the cycles of your time, energy, and attention.
• Compassion fatigue and climate anxiety.
  Finding ways to survive when the world feels too heavy to hold. Together, we’ll explore determined optimism— Holding the tension between rage and grace while balancing rest & boundaries with meaningful action. Learn how to protect your energy without losing your drive to make a difference.
• Is it capitalism, or is it me?
  Examining the pressure to always do, achieve, and succeed—and whether it’s even your burden to carry. Wrestling with questions like: Am I still valuable if I’m not earning money? Who am I without my job? What would it look like to have enough? When would I know that I am enough?