Relationship Therapy with Tara Thomas
Relationships are like a complex ecosystem—rich, interconnected, and evolving through ever-changing seasons. Just as ecosystems cycle through growth, bloom, decay, and renewal, relationships experience their own seasons—moments of abundance and connection alongside periods of challenge and transformation. Navigating this as an individual can be overwhelming enough, but when two or more humans come together, the interplay of similarities and differences adds new layers of complexity, making contrast, conflict, and growth inevitable.
I specialise in working with unconventional couples—those who don’t quite fit the mould and don’t want to. Whether you're navigating the dynamics of a polycule, exploring consensual non-monogamy, or looking to deepen your connection in a monogamous relationship, I meet you where you are with compassion, curiosity, and a healthy dose of real talk.
I fucking love working with reflective folk who are navigating the challenges that come with being deeply human.
Relationships are like a complex ecosystem—rich, interconnected, and evolving through ever-changing seasons. Just as ecosystems cycle through growth, bloom, decay, and renewal, relationships experience their own seasons—moments of abundance and connection alongside periods of challenge and transformation. Navigating this as an individual can be overwhelming enough, but when two or more humans come together, the interplay of similarities and differences adds new layers of complexity, making contrast, conflict, and growth inevitable.
I specialise in working with unconventional couples—those who don’t quite fit the mould and don’t want to. Whether you're navigating the dynamics of a polycule, exploring consensual non-monogamy, or looking to deepen your connection in a monogamous relationship, I meet you where you are with compassion, curiosity, and a healthy dose of real talk.
I fucking love working with reflective folk who are navigating the challenges that come with being deeply human.
"Tara was able to provide us with some really usefully and tangible tools and info to work with.
The outcomes for us were that we were able to really highlight the things that are important to us and put into perspective the trivial things."
Steve Haran & Chris Mostyn, Newcastle Australia
What We’ll Do Together
Our work is about creating space to explore, make sense of your inner world, and build resourceful ways to move forward. Whether you’re questioning your choices, processing complex emotions, or stuck in loops of overthinking, I’m here to help.
Here’s what therapy with me looks like:
- Listening, asking curious questions, and holding space for you to unpack what’s going on.
- Being a sounding board for the complexities in your head and heart.
- Helping you spot patterns that might be unhelpful or holding you back.
- Offering strategies, tools, or ideas to navigate challenges in ways that work for your unique circumstances.
- Validating your experience—because you’re not “crazy” for feeling what you feel.
Some Things We Might Explore
Life gets messy, and sometimes it’s hard to know where to start untangling it all. In our work together, we can delve into the complexities of relationships, identity, and the bigger questions that keep you up at night. Here’s a glimpse at some of the issues we might explore:
- Infidelity and attraction.
Navigating the complex feelings of being the one who had an affair, processing betrayal, or figuring out what to do when you’re sexually or romantically attracted to someone else. - Relationship crossroads.
Deciding whether to stay or go and exploring the possibilities in either direction. - Opening Relationships and Exploring Polyamory
For those considering consensual non-monogamy: support in deciding if it's the right path for you, navigating the transition, and addressing emotions and challenges as they arise during the process. - Navigating Open Relationships
For those already in open relationships: guidance to manage relationship dynamics, address common challenges, and strengthen connections within your chosen relationship(s). - Navigating Monogamous Relationships
For those already in monogamous relationships: guidance to manage relationship dynamics, address common challenges, and strengthen connections within your chosen relationship. - Grief, breakups, and estrangements.
Processing the end of a relationship, whether through the end of a romantic partnership, the drift or rupture of a friendship, family estrangement, or death. Together, we’ll explore ways to honour what was, find clarity in what is, and move forward with intention. - Love & Neurodivergence: Your Brain, Your Rules.
Living with neurodivergence—whether it’s ADHD, AuDHD, Autism, sensory processing struggles, or learning differences like dyslexia or dyspraxia—often means navigating a different set of relationship challenges.I’m great at helping you figure out what’s really in your way (big, small, or weird) and finding what works for you. Maybe you’re already killing it in one area, and we can use that to tackle other challenges—or maybe you’ll decide you don’t give a fuck about that thing anyway. It’s about making life work for you, not the other way around. - Loving Fully with Chronic Pain, Illness, or Disability
Chronic pain, illness, or disability isn’t just about navigating garbage healthcare systems, it's also about defining what is important within your relationship and exploring meaningful contribution & exchanges between you.
With my lived experience and special interest in this space, I bring a deep personal and professional commitment to exploring relationships, legacy, and sexuality beyond symptoms or diagnoses. This includes celebrating vibrant sensuality, kink, and BDSM—all on crip time, where your pace and priorities come first. - Living in rhythms and seasons.
Finding relationship flow in a world that demands constant productivity, and learning to honour the cycles of your time, energy, and attention.
"On first meeting Tara, we felt welcomed and understood. Her flexible, empathetic, non-judgemental approach has made the repair of our relationship a positive and empowering experience.
She provided so many resources to refer to, so the value of pairing with Tara for coaching remains long after the sessions ended."
K & S. Hunter Valley, Australia
What Makes My Approach Different?
I work from a place of inclusivity and curiosity, rejecting one-size-fits-all advice. Relationships are complex ecosystems, influenced by the identities, histories, and values you each bring to the table.
Expect therapy that honours your individuality, challenges societal scripts, and creates space for you to write your own rules.
I'm here for the misfits, rebels, and weirdos who are ready to dig deep, embrace complexity, and create relationships that feel like home.
Other Jazz
What Folks Say About Working with Me
I’ve been told that my approach is a mix of no bullshit honesty and deep compassion. I won’t tell you what to do, but I will help you see the patterns, the options, and the tools that make life feel more manageable.
KIND WORDS FROM CLIENTS
Working with Tara was an amazing experience. Her style of communication and no-nonsense approach to problem-solving really resonated with me.
During the sessions, I learnt a tremendous amount about myself, and how relationships actually work. The experience has helped me to develop a much better understanding of how to resolve conflicts and respond to the emotional needs of others. I highly recommend giving it a go!
Tara was able to provide us with some really usefully and tangible tools and info to work with.
The outcomes for us were that we were able to really highlight the things that are important to us and put into perspective the trivial things.
Tara has been a godsend!
I have been working with her for a little under six months, and her support and insight have helped me in my self development and healing. Her approach is evidence-based, compassionate, and adaptive to my shifting needs.
Through my work with her, I have gained knowledge and skills that have supported my self-awareness and integration. I am very satisfied with and grateful for her service, and would highly recommend her for anyone who wants support on their relational healing journey.
In only three sessions I have learnt a lot about myself and where I am at right now. This has been enlightening. I have been trying every google search based result I could find to help me manage what goes on in my head, and none of it seemed to work. I figured I was the problem.
Your insight into me has provided some clarity and confidence that I just haven’t found what works for me yet. Maybe it’s the exercises you have already given, maybe it’s something else, I don’t know. But the compassion you have shown, mixed with a direct but strategic approach has already helped us start to work through the issues we have.
It highly likely I would have split with M. and been a mess at this time were it not for these sessions. I came very close to that.I have no idea what will pan out these next couple of months, or beyond, but so far I am confident that I will be better able to manage things in my head.
So my feedback is that you have been the right person, at the right time (maybe a little later than we should have) and we really appreciate your style and approach. Not to mention you as a person.
Absolutely love Tara!
Not only did she help us communicate as a couple in different ways, I learnt so much about myself.
I cannot recommend her enough.
Just do it! You will love her!
~ Heather
Hunter Valley