Practical Tools

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Cultivating Emotional Self Awareness: Tools for a More Insightful Life

Emotional self-awareness is the foundation of building your emotional intelligence (EQ). It means you can recognize, understand, and effectively respond to emotional information about yourself and those around you.

Emotional self-awareness is the key skill in EQ because having a solid grasp of your emotions underpins all the other aspects of emotional intelligence.

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Unlocking Interoception: Mind-Body Exercises for Deeper Relationships

Cultural conditioning trains us to ignore the messages from our bodies, which fucks our self-confidence and compels us to look for answers outside ourselves. Rebuilding this connection is crucial for reclaiming our agency. This blog unpacks the role of interoception in relationships and introduces practical mind-body exercises designed to develop and deepen your emotional connections.

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Is Social Media In Relationships Helping or Hurting?

With social media omnipresent in our lives, how can we keep our sense of agency in the way we use them? And is social media in relationships a force of good, or evil? Tara Thomas and Kia Handley discuss the impact of social media in intimate relationships. [Includes audio & full transcript]

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How to Stop the Arguing Before It Even Starts: The Traffic Light Tool

How to Stop Fighting in Relationships (Before the Sh!t Hits)

We’ve all been there before, a spicy conversation leads to escalating tensions and suddenly IT’S ON.

This tool is designed to help you increase self awareness, handle emotional stress, and learn how to stop fighting in relationships (before the shi!t hits)

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Does Online Couples Therapy Work? The Pros & Cons of Online Therapy

Post-panny, many of us still use Zoom for work or to connect socially, and most of us have a pretty good handle on it.

But does online couples therapy work? This blog takes a look at the most common mistakes people make, and covers how to get the most from online couples therapy.

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Help! I’m Attracted to Someone Else: How to Handle Sexual Chemistry When You’re In a Relationship

Finding yourself sexually attracted to someone else while in a committed relationship can feel unsettling, but it’s more common than you might think so there’s no need to feel sad, bad, or weird! If you’re wondering “Why am I attracted to someone else?” you’re in the right place—I wrote this for you.

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Tara Thomas

Hey, I'm Tara, relationship coach & couples therapist.

I'm definitely a weirdo, and have never traveled a conventional path-
It sucks because the world isn't designed for misfits, sometimes it's myself I'm rebelling against, and being a weirdo can be lonely.

I swear a lot, think life is too short to waste on drama & bullshit, and dream of a world where we ALL belong.